From the Individual to the Family : The 'We' Form: Daniel June

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I will give the family as an example of the We form. The I of conscious focus moves and is empowered by the Me I have built over my lifetime. “Daniel” refers to my Me, and pure consciousness to my I. “June” refers to my most immediate We, and the June family is one organism, each of us parts of the brain between us, so that between us, the family itself thinks and has pesonality. For as we have seen, consciousness is layered, so that mankind is one person, and each nation, another person, and amidst these forms are overlapping and complicated circles each their own personality, and all these various We forms are like the rings of a sections tree, the world tree Aggsdrisal, and I myself reach out to the farthest, am part of the whole All, and am also in my center purely and only my utter Self.

Within the We, there is the inner world, my ideas of the universe, which plugs into the external world, the sense data as my mind interprets it. If I have a new daughter, she slowly becomes part of my world. The Idea of Emilie slowly grows in the mindworld, I have the idea of what she is, and her concept builds chains of identify, and habits of causality, so that after a few weeks and months, her image, her persona, her idea is part of my feeling, thinking, talking, and doing, my full habit system. And this image of her must constantly plug into my external perception of her, to be modified, and redefined and modified always.

When a dear one dies, we feel a prolonged sadness, which is equivalent to the conceptual world in my head negotiating the new arrangment of the perceptual world. Sadness is a sorting of ideas. Each mood evokes a unique set of tools, and so it is not only a lens to see the world, but a filter on what mental operations we can readily apply and which we would struggle with. After a car accident it is hard to balance a checkbook, at a funeral hard to plan a vacation, and for men, after sex hard to cuddle. The entire purpose of the mood is to electrify all the desire and possible desires in order to orient them towards one goal.

Since in a family, we have all the personas of our dearest family members, held in an intimate distance to our own self-image, we are open to their moods more than to anybody else’s. It is impossible to be happy about your life, even if you got a promotoin at your job, if your wife is complainative and your child moaning in sickness. The family is one organism, and we think together, feel together, and act together. Synchrnous motion is the way a group thinks as one brain. Motions are of one object when they carry the same subtle energy tone, so that a brain is one consciousness because the central energy has magnetized the whole with the same frequency.

So the family member with a persistent mood cannot be ignored. We attempt mood ploys with our loved ones, to control their moods through expressing our own. Moods are infectious, and yet an angry man or woman might want to make others sad (not angry) in order to feel himself powerful. The feeling of power gives a feeling of joy. For happiness is in pleasure (love), and joy (power). The persistent mood, perhaps an incorrigle cheerful optimism in a husband, will infect everybody else, even though they feel the compulsion to bring up depressing news, facts, and pessimistic views and criticsm, to knock him down. Meet somebody more enthusuiastic then yourself, and you will resist him, you will call him arrogant or proud or foolish, and see if this depresses him with guilt or worry. That is the strategy. But if it doesn’t work and never works, you have only a few choices: to run away and hide and make what moods you want, or to make your moods in response to his: to be infected.

A family is like four people in the corners of a big bath tub. They each splash a mood to the others, while the others splash their moods to us. If our moods resonate, the trough of the wave will rise higher and higher, like feedback on a microphone, but if they negate, criticize, qualify, or dispute each others moods, even the most intense of moods is regulated, moderated, and made maneagable.

With the arrival of a new baby, we make the image of her in our conceptual world of personas. And we also change our personas of the family members, how my wife changes as a person with the presence of a new child, how my other daughter responds, how we react to each other. We grow, develop, and contemplate in unison, we cannot resist reacting to each other, we resonate, we become tighter, stronger, one unit, one mind.